I guess I should start out with the disclaimer that I am not depressed, nor will be in the near future. Just something I was thinking about..
When asking a lot of people in life what they want to be, many will respond with their biggest dreams, or their ultimate dream job, where they want to live, who they want to turn out to be.. but bottom line is everyone always want to be happy. Hell, some people will come out and tell you that they just want to be happy. Which gets me thinking.. is that particular person unhappy now?
Not necessarily. There are moments in our lives where we just want to be happy ever after. We, as humans, are always looking for more, for better happiness. In fact, I would like to argue that we could be in complete bliss and if someone asked us what we wanted in life we would still answer to be happy. It's all about being happy in the future because once the person is happy now it has already been established I guess.. proving the future to be scary.
We rely on the stupid fact that once we are on a high there is always that downfall. We are always on the offense which means causes us to respond that we just want to be happy, petrified that somehow we won't end up happy. That no matter how happy we are now, we long for more to make sure that the next step won't end in failure. After all, would we trade the happiness we have now if we knew that eventually we would get sick of that thing making us happy in time and ultimately fall out of happiness?
My answer is no. I don't think any human would resist their happiness now for fear of what the future is going to drop on them. I guess what I am trying to say is that even if someone did that would be a silly concept, because if we constantly worry abut the happy ever after.. we won't ever appreciate the happy now feeling. That completely bliss that is found in the hot chocolate chip cookies with milk, the feeling of being wrapped in a snuggly blanket, or even the arms of a significant other that who knows what the future holds with them. If we lost all that happiness now, we wouldn't even make it to happy ever after, and after all is happy ever after really what we are worried about. Or is being happy now the thing that we are really striving for?
I want to be happy. What if we said.. I just want to remain happy. Whatever I do, I want to be happy when I get there. Enjoying the happiness along the way. Don't get me wrong. Life is going to have it's moments when you feel sad, but you have to find the happiness even in the dark. Or else you will end up so far from being happy in the end that you won't even know what to look for. So I guess what I am trying to say is strive for the happiness now, after all in the end if you find happiness along the way.. you will find happiness there.